I’m not sure how everyone else is feeling, but I’m fed-up as I write this. I promised myself never to write when angry, but I never said anything about writing when I’m fed-up.
I am fed-up like many with the whole situation, the people who don’t care, the people who can’t be bothered, the systems people are putting in place and systems people then ignore. Managers and staff that don’t ensure they are followed after putting them in place, and these last couple of days it has got to me!
At this point, I need to make people aware that there is no anxiety involved and it is two completely different things, and the medication I started to take recently has been a massive help to me. Prior to taking it quite often, my anxiety would be bubbling away at a very low level underneath, and my mood swings were terrible, too high to too low and in too quick a time too. Going from one of my highs to one of my lows within 24 hours was horrible, but thankfully the similar medication to that which I threw away just after my accident, that I have decided to take some seven and a half years later, is a big help – maybe bigger than big!
But it proves the one thing that I have said so often; it shows there is help out there and people will listen and help you to get on the right track. Medication is not always the answer, remember my counsellor also helped me, and there are others that can, so please don’t be scared to ask for help, probably starting with your GP.
So why am I fed up, well I suppose it is a case of re-reading the second paragraph, but with some examples, so here goes.
My friend went to his local council tip with garden rubbish, and the skip had a narrow ladder leading to a narrow platform allowing him to throw his rubbish down into the skip. As there was someone just finishing off, he waited patiently at the bottom of the ladder for the man to come down. As the man did he said thanks to my friend and added ‘you shouldn’t have waited, I’m not bothered’, to which my friend replied ‘I am.’
I had a similar experience and statement from a man when I waited at one end of a narrow path for him. I didn’t even bother responding, and in one of my other posts, I wrote about the older man who said he wasn’t bothered at his old age. What have these people got in common, well I say ignorance! They don’t seem to be concerned if they catch it, but how would they feel if they unknowingly had it and passed it on to someone else? And I’m afraid I don’t get that selfish attitude, and that attitude would probably be matched if they ever did pass it on to someone. ‘Don’t care.’
And there is more, my local takeaway accepting cash only and not telling you when you order. So when the person serving gave me my change, I asked her how I knew it was clean, her reply was similar to ‘how do I know your money is clean?’ The response was quite easy from me ‘the very reason you should offer contactless options,’ and she muttered something about ‘cash only.’ That was when it struck me, and the first words that came to mind were ‘tax evasion.’ But why shouldn’t they offer contactless with this virus going about, it’s only manners and common sense, it should be law, but then I suppose paying less taxes is more important!
And one of the worst examples as I write this was today in our local. The system is simple, you have to book a table and as we know you have to wear a mask until you are seated, its no-ones fault, it’s the way things are. But this couple decides to walk in with no masks and sit at a table without making themselves known to any staff.
When they were questioned by staff, if they have face coverings and did they have a table booked, they the people who didn’t comply with guidelines and requests started getting stroppy, stood up and said similar to ‘We’re not having this we’re leaving.’ And me being me I couldn’t help myself, sitting at the door as they walked out I said ‘good.’ And what happened next? I got abuse; they did wrong. They made a statement as they walked out, I commented on their comment, and I was in the wrong according to them, well that’s fine abuse me but expect to get some back which he did.
What was pleasing was I heard that the Landlord had also had a go at them for being stroppy to his staff, and this will be another post for another time. But why is it when people do wrong, instead of holding their hand up and apologising they start getting stroppy, argumentative or worse even aggressive and trying to defend what they did wrong? Something else that I find frustrating.
So back to COVID, whose fault is it? Well if we believe the media and all the news stories it is the fault of the Chinese, it certainly isn’t the fault of our Government, so people look to our leaders for help, yet when those leaders make decisions, they don’t like they just ignore them.
How many people won’t wear a mask, out of ignorance or as a protest, yet they will happily accept wages or part wages paid by the same Government who is asking them to help our society and combat the pandemic, so sticking two fingers up at them with one hand, then holding out both hands to take their pieces of silver? Yes, the Government have got a lot wrong, and if you read my post, you can see some of my thoughts:
We know some people cannot wear masks for health reasons, and I understand that, but we know people don’t care. I was very surprised when in my local bookmakers the other day and a customer wouldn’t give his details for track and trace (they didn’t have the app system in place yet). I just don’t get it at all, personally, if I were responsible for the bookmakers the first sign people would see when entering the shop would be similar to ‘no track and trace – no service.’
Sorry but for these people who won’t comply, they should comply or not get the same as everyone else, providing, of course, they can wear a covering. And if people can’t wear masks due to health issues then a standard letter the same at all doctors surgeries’ could be printed, signed and sent out within two minutes to those who need one as proof. We can’t believe everyone that says they have a breathing issue. I think it would help stop a lot of arguments which we have already seen. It’s okay having a green coloured lanyard or similar for people who have problems to wear a covering, but no sooner would the design be agreed and they would be available on any electronic auction site for tuppence.
But it is the brazen, couldn’t care less people who frustrate me, and we all see them, the ones who walk into the local shop not caring, but worse knowing they are annoying people and take pleasure in doing it.
There are many examples I could go into, but it is pointless as they all have the same outcome, annoying because people will not comply and don’t care, like the people who make an effort to put a mask on but can’t be bothered to wear it properly, and again I ask why?
One I will give is in one of my local restaurants I was spoken to quite sharply by a manager because with my mask on, I dared approach the bar to simply ask for a menu, not hang around waiting for a round of drinks, so I had to sit back down. It was ironic that as the night went on, they were letting people go past the same spot, or walk approximately 50m to the toilets without a mask,
and again an example of why it is frustrating, and why I feel fed-up with it all. So when she asked if everything was I okay, I had to comment on her slightly stroppy attitude and her inability to manage a system consistently that they themselves had put in place. Thankfully as already mentioned this does not affect my anxiety, but I can certainly see why some people do suffer, simply because of the actions of other people who don’t care, and who enjoy showing they don’t care.
After all, we are dealing with a pandemic that is killing people, is it too much to ask, to protect ourselves and others, just to try to do the right thing.
Thank you for reading and stay safe
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